Monday, June 14, 2010

A Lesson Learned...


Not so very often, a couple breaks up and has one of those crazy drunken nights where one of them wakes up the next day and not even realize what they have done...Until you get a call from someone saying they are pregnant!!! Well this is sort of like that...

Bryan found out about this "mistake/regret" but was afraid to face reality, so instead, he ran from it and wished, hoped and prayed everyday that it would just go away or "she would somehow fall down the stairs, get hit by a car, or have anything happen so she would just lose it"...too bad things don't work out that easily...

This accident was born April 17th 2009. It wasn't until October 12th 2009 when we went to visit it for the first time. Neither Bryan or I wanted to see it, but we had to try to be civil so she wouldn't try to ask Bryan to pay child support for something he didn't ever want to begin with.(Unfortunately, this didn't quite work out the way we wanted to, apparently child support has to be paid out when the mom is on welfare).

Bryan and I had both spoken about how we were going to confront this problem and we have decided to ignore this ever happened, treat the child support as another one of our bills, and move forward with our happy lives.

As for the child and his mother, the mother agrees with our decision and decided they will live in Louisiana and have a life separate from ours. It's sort of like they never existed to begin with... less drama/confusion for everyone (including the children) Last thing Bryan wants is our children looking at him in a bad way.

Bryan and I don't want our children ever knowing about this mistake Bryan made. We don't want to have this child in our life, cause it just symbolizes dishonesty and carried burdens we both want out of our life. We don't need to be reminded of Bryan's mistake/regret every time we look at it.

I believe this happened for a reason, and I am glad it did, cause this situation has changed Bryan so much! Ever since he realized his mistake, Bryan has become a complete different person, he is more committed to me, a WONDERFUL father and the BEST husband a wife could EVER ask for!!! ♥ ♥ ♥

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